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SEDUCTION QUESTIONAIRE-your seduction IQ
1. Of the following four types of people to seduce, which one would you choose?
a. A man or woman who is your opposite-physically and emotionally.
b. A man or a woman who seems to have a lot in common with you-you have great and lengthy conversations.
c. A man or woman who fits your physical type, shares characteristics of your previous lovers.
d. A man or a woman who effects you in ways you cannot verbalize, does not fit any previous type.
2. At a social affair you spot the man or woman you would like to seduce. Your goal is to attract their attention and get them to think about you, after the night is over. The best way to do this is to:
a. Never say a word, but flirt with your eyes. They will not forget the looks you give them.
b. Confuse them, play hot and cold-you seem intriguing, hard to figure out.
c. Stand out from the crowd, say something provocative, do something daring.
d. Play coy, ignore them, make them come to you.
3. The seduction has begun and you are getting to know each other. In talking about your past experiences and conquests, you should:
a. Downplay the others, give them the feeling that they are the first real love of your life, that you have never really ever seduced anyone.
b. Keep them in the dark, refuse to open up about this-the less they know the better.
c. Brag about your past conquests, make it clear they're not the first nor the last, make them feel jealous.
d. Let them know indirectly-old love letters "accidently" left in the open, etc.-that you have had many passionate affairs.
4. You have had a few dates and you are trying to decide where to go on the next one. A good ploy is to:
a. Be pliant and let them decide, showing how agreeable and easygoing you can be.
b. Without asking, take them to a place that fits their tastes, as far you have been able to ascertain in your first few encounters.
c. Without asking, take them to a place of your choosing, a place you think is exciting. This will show how bold and decisive you can be.
d. Take turns. You decided last time, so they should decide this time. Everything should be 50/50.
5. Early on in the seduction it is best to:
a. Let them know how strongly you feel towards them, with words or a poem or an extravagant gesture. This will bowl them over, sweep them off their feet.
b. Assume the role of the caring friend, while hinting at the possibility of something more between you. This will create an intriguing sexual tension.
c. Suddenly ignore them, turn a cold shoulder. This will shake them up and want you more.
d. Make them feel completely comfortable and relaxed in your presence-they can trust you. This will lower their defenses.
6. We are all a mix of masculine and feminine qualities. To be a more effective seducer you should:
a. Display those qualities that are unabashedly masculine or feminine, appropriate to your gender. There's not enough of this in the world.
b. Occasionally display a touch of the opposite sex, some sensitivity or aggressiveness.
c. Be overtly androgynous. There's nothing as exciting as outright gender-bending.
d. Be yourself and not worry about it.
7. A few weeks into the seduction it is time to do something that will create a lasting impression, an act that will surprise and charm them. The best way to do this is to:
a. Whisk them away to an exciting location, without any advance notice. You are so unpredictable.
b. Do something that reveals a new aspect to your character-show an unsuspected boldness or kindness.
c. Give them an expensive gift-you sacrificed your savings and will do anything to please them.
d. Get them in bed. Nothing will seal their affections faster.
8. The best way to seduce with words is to:
a. Tell the truth. Nothing is more seductive than honesty and sincerity.
b. Say things that are humorous, lighthearted and occasionally poetic, avoiding the sentimental.
c. Say things that will flatter and stroke their ego, making them feel the center of attention.
d. Say "I love you," and other romantic expressions. Nobody tires of that.
9. The person you are seducing is coming over to your house for the first time. You should:
a. Leave the house the way it is. It is better for him or her to know the real you, to show no insecurities on your part.
b. Not change much but enhance the atmosphere with flowers, a gift, good food, little details.
c. Create a total sensual atmosphere to overwhelm them with desire, crowned by your luxuriant bedroom.
d. Keep it sparse and clean-they should be paying attention to you, not the atmosphere.
10. You want the other person to be thinking about you more and more, when you are not in their presence. After a few weeks of involvement, the best way to stimulate such thoughts is to:
a. Go away for a while. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
b. Give them lots of gifts, flowers and mementos. When they see such things, they will think of you.
c. See and phone them less often, but send them insinuating letters, emails, messages.
d. Assail them with phone calls and visits. You are literally everywhere and they can't help but think of you.
11. To advance the seduction, you may want to take them away for a few days, go on a trip. The ideal location would be:
a. A beautiful, somewhat isolated island, one they have never been to before.
b. A place with lots of entertainment and diversions. They won't be able to think of work or worries, and will associate you with pleasure and fun.
c. A city or place where they have some friends and/or memories, a place they know and cherish. The thoughtfulness of such a gesture will charm them.
d. A very expensive hotel. There are no limits in what you will spend or do for them.
12. After a few weeks of seducing you sense that your victim has become more resistant and suspicious. You should:
a. Do some action that is self-sacrificing-help with some problem, go out on the limb for their sake.
b. Take a step back, give them room to breathe, leave them alone for a while.
c. Give up and find a better person to seduce. Life is too short.
d. Push and advance your cause with even more zeal, even going so far as to make them feel bad for resisting you.
13. We all have a dark side. As far as you can help it, it is generally best to:
a. Play up this dark side, show off your devilish qualities. People are drawn to those who are overtly transgressive.
b. Cover up the dark part of your character and play up what is good and kind about you. Those are rare and seductive qualities.
c. Relax and be yourself. It is not seductive to play games or mislead people about who you are.
d. Reveal a slight devilish streak, a touch of the sinister. This will fascinate instead of frighten your seductive victims.
14. A point is always reached in which you want to turn the psychological seduction into something physical. The best way to heat up the other person and put them in a lustful mood is to:
a. Initiate some slight physical contact-a brush up, a whisper in the ear-enough to get them thinking.
b. Utter some intoxicating, romantic words, insinuating but easily understood.
c. Initiate some strong physical contact, go on the attack, giving them no time to have second thoughts or become defensive.
d. Give them some provocative, flirtatious looks. That will get their blood racing.
15. You sense that the other person is ready and the time has come to finish off the seduction. In general, the most exciting climax is achieved by:
a. Waiting a little and then surprising the victim with an unexpected bold move.
b. Taking a step back, so that the other person has to become the aggressor, an exciting turning of the tables.
c. Going halfway. It is much more satisfying if the final move is shared and equal.
d. Attacking the moment you sense they are ready. No good can come from waiting or postponing.
16. The seduction is over and the two of you are settling into a relationship. Now it is time to:
a. Keep seducing. You can't let up for an instant. The best relationships involve constant seductions and tension.
b. Settle down and get to know each other. If you keep playing seductive games, it will backfire.
c. Withdraw a little and make the other person seduce you. No one should take you for granted.
d. Let things slow down, but occasionally inject a seductive surprise, or coquettish maneuver.
17. The seduction is over, you're bored and you want to move on to greener pastures. The best way to do this is to:
a. Let your victim down gently and slowly. There's no good in hurting people with an abrupt breakup.
b. Make the break clean and quick. You have to be cruel to be kind.
c. Don't break up but keep them in your stable, while you secretly move on to your next victim. If they find out or complain, then let them go.
d. Overwhelm them with love and relentless attention. They will grow bored and initiate the breakup.
18. The person you want to seduce was once a promiscuous rake or siren, but now has settled down or changed his or her ways. The best way to approach such a type is to:
a. Leave them alone. They have reformed, want to settle down and will be unwilling victims, not what you want.
b. Go on the attack. Be as seductive and alluring as possible-the old desires will quickly return to life.
c. Befriend them. Take the slow, cautious approach, appealing to their newfound desire to settle down.
d. Play the coquette. Show you're interested, then pull back and make them chase you. They live for the hunt.
19. The person you want to seduce is physically beautiful and admired by many for his or her beauty. The best way to seduce such a type is to:
a. Play to their strengths and flatter them about their body, worship their beauty. You dare not stir up any insecurities in this area.
b. Play to their weakness and flatter their mind, making them feel that you are interested in them because of their intellect or character.
c. Don't bother. Such types are very difficult to seduce and there's way too much competition anyway.
d. Make them feel validated about both their mind and body-you can never go too far with such types.
20. The person you want to seduce is quite shy, cautious and even conservative in their behavior. The best way to ensnare such a type is to:
a. Don't try. Such people make for unsatisfying, resistant victims.
b. Enter their spirit-be somewhat cautious and timid as well. They will slowly open up.
c. Play up your naughty, rebellious qualities. They secretly crave adventure, and through you they can have it.
d. Play the coquette and get them to do some of the chasing. They yearn to break out of their shell and play such a role.
Answers and scores:
1. d) 3, a) 2, c) 1, b) 0
2. b) 3, a) 2, c) 1, d) 0
3. d) 3, c) 2, b) 1, a) 0
4. b) 3, a) 2, c) 1, d) 0
5. b) 3, d) 2, c) 1, a) 0
6. b) 3, d) 2, a) 1, c) 0
7. b) 3, a) 2, c) 1, d) 0
8. b) 3, c) 2, d) 1, a) 0
9. b) 3, c) 2, d) 1, a) 0
10. c) 3, b) 2, a) 1, d) 0
11. a) 3, b) 2, d) 1, c) 0
12. a) 3, b) 2, d) 1, c) 0
13. d) 3, a) 2, c) 1, b) 0
14. a) 3, d) 2, b) 1, c) 0
15. a) 3, d) 2, b) 1, c) 0
16. d) 3, a) 2, c) 1, b) 0
17. b) 3, d) 2, c) 1, a) 0
18. d) 3, b) 2, c) 1, a) 0
19. d) 3, b) 2, a) 1, c) 0
20. c) 3, d) 2, b) 1, a) 0
Scoring:
50-60: A top-notch seducer. You understand the process, it's in your blood. You will want to read this book to confirm what you know by experience and instinct. You will also be amused to know about the other great seducers in history, and to find out which ones you most resemble.
40-50: You have a good, natural feel for seduction, but you have a few blind spots and your skills need to be honed and tightened. You need a challenge. The Art of Seduction will give you some ideas as to how you can improve your already considerable skills, and build upon your natural talents.
30-40: You are a good seducer, but you tend to rely on the same methods, the same approaches. You lack some versatility. You need to read this book to expand your repertoire and to make yourself more conscious of what you do that is seductive and anti-seductive.
20-30: You are an average seducer, who often makes mistakes. You need to read this book to learn about those mistakes, and how to avoid them. This book will help you in all kinds of social situations, and help you reflect on why sometimes you lack an ability to charm those you want to charm.
20 and below: You are full of misconceptions and prejudices when it comes to seduction, qualities that will hold you back in many facets of life. If you are haughty and think you know everything or hate the whole idea of seduction, then good luck and God be with you. But if you are open to change, you will find this book extremely refreshing and useful. Remember-great seducers are made, not born.
